The first time I allowed someone else to write code for me, I had to be convinced that they were a good person who simply needed a chance.
So I gave them that chance.
I brought them in, gave them full access, and allowed them to work with very little supervision. They downloaded a framework and began building a theme. It was decent. It was not up to my standards, but I was not the one who had to build it, so I accepted that and let them continue.
As the site expanded, we began adding more features. That was when the first major problem appeared.
They were obsessed with preemptive moderation. They did not want users to have the freedom to upload content or move through the platform without interference. Nearly every action had to be reviewed and approved. It created unnecessary restrictions, slowed everything down, and became an immediate source of frustration.
Then came the excuses.
They could not work on the site because of one reason or another. The project sat untouched for months. More time passed, no meaningful work was completed, and they slowly became less useful and increasingly toxic.
Over time, I learned more about how this person treated other people. I kept my mouth shut. I allowed them to exist in the space without creating a public conflict. Eventually, they faded away on their own.
I suspect the exact same thing happened at the other group they were a part of since they downplayed that so very hard. I do suspect they had a choice to either leave on their own or be removed.
When I finally removed their access and reviewed what they had actually built, I was genuinely disgusted by the condition of the code.
The framework had been almost entirely ignored. Functions were filled with hacks. Permission systems had been broken. Security holes were everywhere. The project was not simply unfinished. It had been built in a way that made it unstable, difficult to maintain, and dangerous to continue operating.
I destroyed the website quickly because salvaging it was not worth the risk.
To this day, I still see this person spending their time tearing other people down. They obsessively post about me. They come to this website, read what I write, and then carry that drama back into their own network of friends.
That says far more about them than it does about me.
You have to do this because you have nothing else. You cannot simply post about the things that make you happy, because happiness does not perform well for the audience you have built. You have trained your followers to expect outrage, criticism, and conflict. Now you have to remain angry at anything you can reach in order to keep their attention.
The shelter post made that especially clear.
You had nothing to do with that situation. You had no direct knowledge of what happened. Nothing had been fully explained, investigated, or brought to light. Yet you still felt compelled to insert yourself, form an immediate opinion, and publicly weigh in.
That is not concern. It is not accountability. It is not advocacy.
It is obsessive and toxic behavior.
When someone repeatedly searches for situations that do not involve them, assumes the worst before the facts are known, and uses those situations to feed an audience built around hostility, they are not helping anyone. They are feeding their own need for conflict.
And when a person becomes incapable of recognizing that pattern in themselves, they become nearly impossible to correct.
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